What You Wish You Knew About Your Newborn

Things I wish I would have known before I brought my baby home, and things that I'm personaly glad someone told me, because I never would have thought of it. Theres a thread similiar in Pregnancy and Birth, and I thought it would be useful here too.

1. Its okay to put your screaming infant in his/her crib for a minute while you calm down. They wont hate you for it.

2. Most hospitals/drugstores rent breast pumps if your breastfeeding, and you dont need to waste money buying pumps just to try them out! I bought an electric and manual pump, and it turned out hand expression works best for me.

3. Skirts and dresses on an infant whos learning how to crawl, Im told is NOT a good idea. It discourages crawling.. and it seems kind of cruel doesnt it? They may be cute, but save it til they're walking!

4. Get a Nasal Aspirator! I didnt think it was overly important, until my baby wouldnt eat because her nose was stuffed! Generaly, babies will opt for breathing over eating.

5. Undershirts with buttons that go around the crotch may look ugly on the hanger, but they wont ride up! I opted for cute little shirts when first buying clothes for my baby, but someone gave her one that buttoned around the crotch for Christmas, and I figured she ought to wear it at least once,and it was love at first try!

6. Buying tissue, like Kleenex, in bulk, is much handier for babies that spit up a lot then constantly going through recieving blankets. No matter how many you have! Because having to do laundry every day, and keep an eye on a newborn, is difficult!!

7. Huggies sells disposable changepads, a nice alternative to washable ones, but expensive. Most homecare stores carry cheaper ones! The same kind they put under your butt when your in labour in teh hospital, for when your water breaks. They come in packs of like 25 for 5 bucks! (Canadian)

Thats all I can think of for now, Im sure theres TONS more, if anyone can think of anything, post it!

What You Wish You Knew About Your Newborn

1. Even if you use disposable diapers, buy cloth diapers because you will use them for everything. 2. Most of their cute clothes will get stained, and i believe one of the laws of physics is that if you want them to wear it, they will poop/spit up on it right before you are leaving, but only if you are already late! 3. Breastfeeding isnt a natural instinct that you and your baby automatically know how to do. I cant think of anymore right now, but if i do i'll post some more.

What You Wish You Knew About Your Newborn

"3. Breastfeeding isnt a natural instinct that you and your baby automatically know how to do. " I'm sorry, I am not trying to be rude, but I disagree with this one. I think it is the most natural thing I have ever done, besides breathing and feeding myself. I think it is the influence of society that makes us doubt ourselves, and makes breastfeeding seem a lot more difficult than it actually is. I am not trying to disregard the very real problems that women sometimes have when nursing, but I think they are a lot easier to deal with when a woman approaces nursing with confidence. I have found that many "nursing education" videos and classes make nursing seem much harder and less natural than it actually is. Almost any woman can successfully breastfeed her child exclusively for as long as she wants to, and it is very, very rare that a woman will have true physical problems that prevent her from nursing, or that will create a need for supplementing (again, I am not saying it never happens, just that it is rare.)

What You Wish You Knew About Your Newborn

I think she meant that it isn't always easy, so don't feel bad if it takes you awhile to get the hang of it..... My 2 cents- Don't buy too many newborn clothes and diapers because they grow out of them so fast.

What You Wish You Knew About Your Newborn

MamaButterfly wrote:"3. Breastfeeding isnt a natural instinct that you and your baby automatically know how to do. " I think it is the most natural thing I have ever done, besides breathing and feeding myself. I think it is the influence of society that makes us doubt ourselves, and makes breastfeeding seem a lot more difficult than it actually is. I'm glad nursing was easy for you but that isn't the reality for most women I know. I found it comforting to know that my body wasn't defective since it didn't work right away. My LLL said you have to "teach" the baby to nurse and that it has been difficult in some way for every baby she's nursed (4). I had a baby that physically could NOT latch on and he was starving to death before I got my nipple shield- then he got all the milk he needed and wanted. I think saying how easy it was for you may discourage a mom from nursing if everything doesn't go perfect at first. I did surround myself with nursing moms most of my pregnancy and I was also convinced it would as easy as breathing and it wasn't by any stretch of my imagination.

What You Wish You Knew About Your Newborn

Sorry, I just think there is already a lot of influences in our society making mothers doubt themselves, and I hate for a new mommy to give up because she thinks it will be hard. I realize what I said was insensitive and I didn't mean it that way.

What You Wish You Knew About Your Newborn

Thought Id bump the threa with another wish I knew... That by choosing to co-sleep, I never had to buy a crib! Kaylee wont sleep in it now, and I should have just bought her a toddler bed for when she grows out of mine! A toddler bed rail would have been just fine.

What You Wish You Knew About Your Newborn

mamax3 wrote:I think she meant that it isn't always easy, so don't feel bad if it takes you awhile to get the hang of it..... My 2 cents- Don't buy too many newborn clothes and diapers because they grow out of them so fast. thats what i meant, like some people think you will automatically be a pro but you need some practice.

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SkyKid45 wrote: It isnt really easy my 3 week old baby wouldn't latch on the dont know if its a boob or not. so I agree its not easy and it made me feel like a big loser jenna

What You Wish You Knew About Your Newborn

1. Breastfeeding is NOT that simple 2. Once you start to co-sleep good luck with getting then into the crib 3. Diapers DO leak(lol) even with poo surprises! 4. Babies DO cry for no real reason 5. You really should sleep when baby sleeps because when they're older you'll regret it if you dont! (ZZzz) Thats about it but i'm sure i'll eventually think of TONS more!

What You Wish You Knew About Your Newborn

1. that it was okay if he wasn't eating constantly the first few days while my milk is coming in (he wasn't that great at latching on, and didn't even seem interesting, until he was three days old- then he nursed constantly! caused me a lot of worry...) 2. using newborn sized cloth diapers isn't really worth it money-wise because they're gone so quick. use a service for the first month (save you having to do the laundry anyways), or disposables. 3. don't listen to anyone telling you you have to get back into your regular routine/start doing chores again until your baby is at least a month old!! (and try to make sure you have lots of people to help you in the meantime- don't be afraid to tell them what needs to be done) 4. freezing meals is actually a really good idea. 5. sleep when your baby does- for real. 6. don't listen to your doctor just because he's a doctor (or anyone else for that matter). find time to read up on everything, make your decisions for yourself, and LISTEN TO YOUR INSTINCTS- they exist for a reason! 7. get a baby sling and learn how to use it. ask for help, and don't give up if they don't like it right away. try more than one at the store if you have to. 8. don't wait until you're already going crazy to ask for some help. Most important for me: a baby will tell you when it wants something. if it's too hot, too cold, uncomfortable, wants more attention, wants less attention, is hungry, is tired, whatever- they will tell you. don't feel bad about ignoring them if they're happy playing by themselves, don't change their clothes for the fourth time if they seem perfectly comfortable. I spent a lot of time trying to figure out what he wanted when he didn't want anything at all. they're good communicators from the very beginning (even if you don't know WHAT they want, sometimes, you always know when they want it!) so just relax and let them run the show.

What You Wish You Knew About Your Newborn

these tips are all great thanx gurls

What You Wish You Knew About Your Newborn

1.No nappy is leakproof regardless of cost or money back promises 2.Newborn is a waste of time as very few babies fit into them 3.If the baby isnt hungry dont worry-wait a while 4.Dont be upset if you cant breast feed-some can and some cant-A baby can and will thrive on other options 5.If it looks cute then it is more than likely unpractical 6.white or pale colours when crawling-no no no no no 7.so what if you havent washed the car in 6 weeks-who cares?avoid the unessential chores and yes washing the dishes is essential im afraid.

What You Wish You Knew About Your Newborn

1. For baby showers or b-days, don't ask for clothes or toys. Get Diapers! 2. Breatfeeding isnt as hard as they make it out 3. Don't plan on co-sleeping just for a lil' bit 4. Don't listen to other people 5. Go disposable, dishes aren't essential 6. Drugs aren't bad, it is okay to take tynelol. 7. formula isn't bad 8. you dont have to hold them all the time 9. let them sleep 10. No need for slings 11. Get help! 12. The best changing table is the floor. 13. get more storage 14. Don't freak about their hair 15. you can stay in school 16. your mom isnt always right 17. Dads can help 18. Make him get up too 19. Don't say No to hand-me-downs 20. They dont always have to look cute.. 21. You can say no to help 22. you can say no to visitars

What You Wish You Knew About Your Newborn

Really? I've found that our sling is one of the most useful things.. To each his own I guess. I second the "you can say no to help" at first I was too polite to tell people to back the hell off my newborn. :?

What You Wish You Knew About Your Newborn

LAYETTE GOWNS ARE THE BEST!!!! (you dont hafta wake up too much to change a diaper when theres not buttons or snaps to deal with co-sleeping is AWESOME for breastfeeding moms... also, you hafta wake up less babies bounce!! dont freak out if they fall, unless theyre *actually* seriously injured. theyre fine. your mom knows how she raised YOU -- that doesnt mean she always right dont think youre being rude when you tell people to just go away. sometimes new moms want to just NOT be surrounded all the time... sometimes new moms just want some quiet time. its perfectly normal to spend kind of a lot of time crying with your baby I COMPLETELY AGREE with both the "breastfeeding is NOT always easy, so dont get discouraged if it doesnt work right away" and "its ok to put a screaming child down for a bit and walk away"... sometimes thats the BEST option, because if theres nothing else you can tdo to compfor them and youre frazzled, continuing to be right in their face while they scream isnt going to make either of you feel better. also... and this ones a little sensitive and harder to admit, but... sometimes, you dont feel connected to your baby right off the bat, sometimes you feel like you shouldnt be a mom, or that youre not ready and why did you get yourself into this and "i wish i could just go out and party with my friends or interact with other adults" and who am i now? in mild forms, its really OK to feel this way... it took me kind of a long time to grasp what my new role is and to really come to LOVE being a mom... its hard, you know.

So Many!!!

1. They cry and cry so they wont sleep 2. He likes to pee on everything 3. When he is sick he doesnt sleep 4. dont buy so many clothes at once. he barely wore anything we bought! 5. They outgrow diapers while you still have 2 packs left. 6. You have to take a break every now and then to save your sanity. 7. Buy the disposable changing pads. 8. He doesnt always want to be held. 9. Take the help people offer. 10. Make sure you have extra clothes where ever you go.

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