Oh wow. I'm completely speechless.

I have no idea why someone would bring this negativity into your life. She obviously has some issues she needs to confront and work through. Wow, I just completely lost my train of thought thinking about the fact that she told you you will regret having another child. That just blows my mind.

I keep trying to think of something helpful to write but I can't get passed how fucked up this is. I think, basically, she pulls this shit because she has a substance abuse problem. I've had many people in my life suffer substance addictions, and I have yet to find a productive method to deal with everything that entails.

It's pretty much ignore, enable, confront or cut off, right?

Mama Butterfly, your in my thoughts. Take it all in stride, we're here to listen to you.

But, ha, I will say what your expecting to hear from us. Cut her off. I hope your circle of friends would understand, given the situation, why you don't want to associate with her. As far as I'm concerned, what kind of friends wouldn't understand. Hell, just tell her to back off for the rest of your pregnancy. Allowing yourself to have a friend like this is only painful, and thats not a friendship. I'm also of the pov that drugs are bad news. Biased I know, but I keep friends who do drugs at an arms length. They have enough respect for those who try to be sober to not be mean about it.

I've had to cut of many friends who make up part of larger friend networks, it's difficult, but in the end not doing so would've been far worse.

Also Mama Butterfly, don't give her excuses because of the drugs. She deserves no excuses for what she's said to you. Sounds like you need some positive energy. I'm sending it your way.

Feel it yet?

Thank you. I have stopped hanging out with her, but she's at all the gatherings I go to, so it's hard because I'm not the kind of person that wants to be rude to someone, especially in front of everyone and their children. I'm not totally anti-drug, but she definitely has a drug problem, and being around drug addicts is never a good thing. Thanks for the positive energy.

I am totally of the mindset that thoughts are energy. Even thinking bad things can send out negative energy. When I was pregnant I would not let anyone say anything about when I would go into labor or anything because I swore they would jinx me lol. Anyway, as for your friend... does she know that you are on bedrest now? Does she now think that "she was right?" I think maybe she needs to be informed about your situation. Then, you need to tell her that you don't appreciate the negative energy and that you want to enjoy this pregnancy. On the other hand, don't psych yourself out. Think positive thoughts yourself and tell your uterus to stop contracting, haha. We are all thinking about you.

She doesn't know, and yes she would think she was right. I don't want her to know, because I seriously think she would just put more negative energy into it. I'm just not going to talk to her at all, and I hope she's not thinking about me. I kinda think she's hoping I lose this pregnancy.

I'm worried right now, because even though I was laying around all day, I just had more symptoms. I just want everything to be okay. Send positive thoughts my way!

That's really shitty, and it doesn't seem like there's any way to completely cut her out either.

I'm thinking positive thoughts and sending you some calm uterus vibes.

Have you done any meditation? Could help to visualize the contractions stopping and try to bring harmony into your body. I think there is some guided meditation for pregnancy on youtube if you're interested.

Thanks so much for all the positive vibes! I haven't had contractions for the past couple days, and my midwife came over yesterday just to check everything and said she thinks I'm totally fine. The heartbeat was still nice and strong, and she said everything looks good.

She put me on a stricter diet because she thinks I was having contractions because I'm too skinny from being sick, so I'm back to eating really bland foods, and I have to eat at least every hour and a half. It seems to be helping, and I'm feeling a lot better, but I'm still trying my best to take it easy.

I've kinda disassociated from all my friends, because they're all drinkers and I never really have been. I used to drink a little at the potlucks and such they have, but I'm really not into being around drunk people and drinking. Also, it's hard on bf because he's been trying to quit drinking, and he's done really well over the past few months except for a couple slip ups recently when we were at a thanksgiving party and a bday party. I need a new circle of friends.

Hey Mama, thats awesome to hear that your both doing better. How far along are you? I'll keep the positive thought flowin' your way!

I've been able to find a good group of friends in ND that are fully supportive in keepin' dry and sober. They're so supportive (and radical too, just the way I like em'). They take up issue with socially radical individuals who don't provide emotional support and who don't provide safe spaces for friends who do have issues with drinking and drugs. It's hard for those who do drugs and drink to understand that being in the vicinity of them for some is unproductive to their own mental health.

After my pregnancy I'd like to stay away from alcohol completely to support my friends and my partner (I've always stayed an arms length from drugs). My partner like your partner is trying to stay sober (D has been sober and dry for 2+ years so proud of him!). I know he's had issues with friends using him as a DD, and at times friends have kind of forgotten about him, not out of malice, but more so because they don't do many activities which don't involve drugs or alcohol. It's definitely hard to stay closely connected to them.

I too have never been big into drinking, but my grandpa was an alcoholic and I have recognized some alcoholic tendencies within me when its just me and a bottle of wine. It makes me pause, cause if alcoholism runs in my family and my partner's family too, whats the best line of action for my future children? Ya know?

I'm 15 weeks. Just 25 hopefully uneventful weeks to go!

Glad you're doing better!