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I'm soooo pissed right now..My SO is okay in most aspects, he's good w/ the kids, we still have fun and joke and whatever, but I effing HATE how selfish he is. He thinks of himself, and only himself, and he'll think of the kids once I push him to, but in any given situation, I need to force him to. He went to BC this weekend, for a wedding. The plan was, he takes Friday off and goes, does the wedding, comes back today. I had a rough weekend alone, Trey has croup, so many things to get done, I was looking forward to him being back tonight. So yesterday I'm talking to him and he mentions he's not leaving until Monday. My first day of school is tomorrow. I start at 8am, and he expected me to do the entire morning routine myself, getting both kids packed and walking them to daycare then transitting, and the transit to school is 1.5 hours. My class ends at 5:00, which would leave me getting back to the daycare at 6:30 when it closes at 6:00. So I told him he needs to come home today.. so he is.. he called at 10 and said he may take a nap and head out. Which meant he slept the entire day because he was out partying til 6 am, then sat around playing VIDEO GAMES and is JUST NOW heading out of the house. I'm fucking pissed off, he couldn't even find the consideration to call Trey to say goodnight before he went to bed like he promised he would each night, Trey sat by the phone for like an hour before he gave up and went to bed. There's no point to this story, I just need to rant, I'm sick of being someones after thought, and I'm glad that once I'm done school I'll be fully capable of leaving if I need to.
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Re: I'm soooo pissed right now..
He shouldn't be treating you and the kids that way. I'm sorry he's being so selfish, and I hope you get things worked out however you need to.
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Oh man, I would be pissed too! Sorry you have to deal with that.
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I remember dealing with that stuff all the time with bd. It was sort of relievingwhen I left him because I knew exactly what I was responsible for accomplishing. It meant I was responsible for everything, but in some way that was easier than the constant battle of trying to get him to participate.
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It's pretty bad that he didn't consider your needs before taking doing what he wanted. I second what Charlie said about it sometimes being easier when you know that you have to be responsible for everything. At least that way, you aren't expecting someone else to pick up the slack and then have to figure things out on your own when they don't.
It's good that you will be in a position to leave if you feel it necessary when school is over. How long will that be?
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I would be soo pissed too!! Thats really frusterating, and shitty of your S/O. The part about Trey sitting by the phone before bed is just soo heartbreaking. Poor little guy!
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I'm sorry you're dealing with this mama. The hardest part about someone being selfish is that it's a really hard trait for them to even possibly change, since they probably don't see how they behave as a problem. The only advice I can really give is to try and talk about how it makes you feel &hope that he starts to understand where you're coming from &starts trying to make things better.
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Ugh. I'm sorry. That sounds really frustrating.
You and SO have been to counseling together before, right? (I could very easily be misremembering). If so, did it help at all? Do you think it would be worth it to go back?
I hope Trey gets better soon!
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I'm done school in 10 months. We've been to counselling but it was short lived, the good thing is that it helped him work through his anger issues, so that issue is pretty much gone now. I'm not sure though if he'd go back for more, or if he did if he even sees his self centredness as an issue at all. He got an earful of the situation, and he had to apologize to T, I'm hoping facing up to that made him realize what a shitty thing it was to do.