Wow, that's a lot! Sorry you're dealing with all this.
Sounds to me like you need to get out of that house. Can you live with your mom for a bit? Or can you get OW and find your own apartment, maybe look into a subsidized one?
Just googled and found this for housing:
http://communitylink.cioc.ca/record/BAR0342
I know you are worried about money, that must be scary. But your financial situation is temporary - it can and will change in time. If your son is hurt (emotionally), you will be working on that for a long time. #1 is safety, IMO. Money comes after that.
Did you have a support system in Toronto to consider moving back to?
Not sure how long you've been out of school for, but have you applied for help through OSAP yet? http://osap.gov.on.ca/eng/not_secure/repay_help_12.htm

Good luck.

I'm so sorry about everything you and your son have been through, though I'm glad you've got full custody of him.

I agree with momnipotent that safety is your top priority, and that once you find a safe, healthy situation then you'll be able to work on gaining financial stability from there. Did you talk to your dad about your step-mom's actions at all? How did he respond?

It sounds like living with your step-mom is not what you need. Would living with your mom or girlfriend be an option? What about renting? If you have more of a support system in Toronto (or elsewhere) it might make sense to move back. What kind of jobs are you looking for? Is there a good job market in Barrie?

I am so sorry to hear about all the crap that you are going through. I am happy to hear that you won the legal battle, and have full custody of your son.

Where are you living now...are you still in Barrie? And what is your feild? Im in Ontario as well, but I am out in Halton.

Have you applied for subsidized housing/daycare yet? The wait list can be a bit grueling, however if you are going for housing on your own, you may be able to get bumped up on the list. Especially if you are coming from a situation where theres abuse/mistreatement (step-mother).

I agree that it might be helpful to apply for Ontario Works. In my region, they will put people into hotels (they aren't the nicest hotels, but they work), if they are in desparate housing situations.

Your financial situation is not forever!! It sounds like you have completed an education, and that is an incredible asset! Finding a job in your field is tough at first. I graduated college last year, and I spent 2 months full-time job searching (8+ hours a day). It was discouraging and awful, and there was a time that I was damn sure that I wasn't going to find ANYTHING. Eventually I did. It was very traumatic, though!

Your step-mom sounds like my husband's step-mom...she lives not to far from Barrie. It must be the water or something...but she did the EXACT same thing three weeks ago...started flipping out and yelling nonsense at my husband....yelled at my kid...so we left..We don't live with her, but now my husband no relationship with his father.

I think your first priority should be to get in a safe situation. If that means going back to Toronto, maybe that's what you should do. Growing up with a mama struggling to get by is a lot better than growing up in the situation you described.

Well i just spent the last week in toronto with my gradfather on hs death bed. The only real support i had left. He died on Thurday and the funeral was yesterday. Just got back to my fathers and he pulled me out side for a chat and kicked me out. Says he doestn agree with my life stlye (being gay) and i have no place here anymore. Im calling tomorrow to get on OW for now. Im going to try to get on emergancy housing and subsidized daycare in Toronto or New market for now. Im just done. Im feeling like i really have nothing going for me right now and i am concerned about how im going to be able to do all this with Aidyn. I cant give him up to his dads, its not safe. I dont know anymore. Thank you very much for the advice.

I'm sorry you're going through this.

That is really rough. I think it is good that you are trying for emergency housing. Good luck and keep us updated. Maybe you could contact your local queer organizations and ask what resources they might be able to lead you to.

So they denyed me for emergancy housing or support through OW. SInce my status is stil married and i made too much money this month they said my best bet is to take Aidyn to a shelter and stay there and maybe they can speed up the process. No guarantees. I feel totally screwed right now. Just spent the last 5 hours applying for jobs in Toronto, cross your fingers!! Something has to look up. My bottom just keeps getting lower every hour that im in this place. I really got myself into a jam this time....

I'm so sorry, mama. Are you staying at a shelter right now?

Oh no, I'm sorry to hear that. I think getting into a shelter will get you to the top of the subsidized housing wait list though (at least where I live). I wish I knew of something more helpful. Good luck.

Being in a Shelter should get you to the top of the list, subsidized housing wise. Can you apply out of region....Like to Peel, Halton, and Hamilton?

That really sucks that your father kicked you out...and suddenly? Did they not know about you being gay before? Why is this all of a sudden an issue. Thats just horrible!

Fuck OW. They put up so many damn barriers to people (usless ones) to prevent them from getting the help they needed. Sometimes, I find it all depends on the in-take worker. I have worked with people in far less emergent situations than yours that have been approved. How long do you have at the Shelter?

So after days of fighting ow i got funding.... Im staying at my gf for right now and i found a place for the first in Newmarket. The only place that would take me this quickly and with no job was a small one bedroom for 875 a month.... crazy expensive but in a really safe neighbourhood and really nice landlords..... i figure if i stay just for the winter than ill be okay financially but it will be really tight. I dont have to sign a one year lease so i can leave whenever i need too. At least its my own place and its safe and its local for me and aidyn so im close to transportation and a job. Thank you for your support and ill try and keep you all updated. This is the first time ive been able to make it to a computer to update! Now its just trying to find stuff for the apt because i gave it all up in the divorce... Ahh starting from scratch is stressful but will hopefully be a eye opening positive experience. Ive learned that you cant trust or depend on no one but yourself!! And to always have a back up plan, thats for sure. Im defiantly looking forward to not living out of a bag anymore and Aidyn having a bedroom and his stuff back too. Thanks again mamas

I'm really really glad to hear that you're in a safe place. I had been thinking about you and your situation a good deal. It's nice to get an update. I hope things keep getting better .