has he ever been evaluated by a speech therapist? Maybe he has some other issues going on where he can't chew properly?

Thats what I was wondering...is there a medical/development issue causing him not to be able to eat solid food?

I think at two, they should be able to eat most solid foods, as long as its cut into tiny peices, and they are being monitored. There is nothing wrong with mashing his food/making it soft. I mean, whatever is in your comfort level, right?

My son still chokes on food every now and again (3 1/2). However, his choking is stuff he can self-remedy (he coughs for a bit, and brings it up).

With my son I found cooked noodles were good (so i fed him spagettie, or mac and cheese). Cheerios are a good finger food....so he can pick them up and feed them at his own pace.. I found just letting him feed himself was good, because he was able to get used to the new tastes and textures on his own.

I don't think its a medical condition. I just think he takes after his mother. I have a small mouth and throat. (I have to brush my teeth with a toddler toothbrush). I've tried to get him to chew but he just wants to swallow, instead of chew. I tried dry spaghetti and he loved it. I cut it up in little pieces (about a half an inch long) and he swallowed it down.

Could you clarify, when did you start introducing solid foods?

Kids learn how to eat by eating. I think you can start giving him more solid type foods. Some food are bigger choking hazards than other, like raw carrots for example are a high choking food. But, lots of other foods are fine. By two, my son was eating pretty much everything I eat. I just watched him closely and gave him small bites.

I introduced solids at 16 months, but he didn't stop breastfeeding until 18 months. I tried diced carrots (boiled) and told him he needs to chew and i showed him and he chewed a tiny bit then swallowed the rest. its so frustrating.

It's scary when you experience your child choking. You certainly don't want to do anything to have either of you go through that again. So he choked the once with you and the once with his dad?

Until my son was around three, I literally had to cut everything to a size that was safe to swallow without chewing. We had him examined and even a scope done and they found no issues, yet he kept choking. Not getting something stuck in his throat and coughing it up either, but to the point that we had several 911 calls. We had him on the chunky stage 3 or whatever babyfood long past what's good for them, but I was so afraid to try other foods.

The important thing is that he can still eat almost anything other kids his age can, but you have to be diligent about cutting it up if choking is an issue. I'd cut ds's food to 1/4 to 1/8 the size of my pinky finger nail. Most meat and vegetables can be cooked until tender and then cut up that small. Soft fruits like melon and bananas can be easily cut up. I know we used to even cut up raw apples and carrots that size for him and he never choked because the pieces were literally too small to choke on.

I don't know, I wouldn't doo all of that for a child that was capable of eating normally at that age because it is really important that they actually learn how to chew and eat age appropriate foods. You can ask to have a feeding study done in a supervised environment where they can determine how he eats and whether his food needs to be cut abnormally small (and why). If that's the case, then at least you have documentation to provide bd as to why he can't feed him larger foods.

I found that for me, taking an infant/child CPR course was excellent for my confidence to deal with a choking emergency that might arise. I did this a few months ago after ds (who's a month shy of 5) choked on a chicken nugget at McDonalds. We were so lucky that another mom eating there had first aid training, she saved his life. But it made me realise that I had the choice to either stop feeding him solids (believe me, I considered it) or to get the skills to know what I'm doing if it happens again.

Yes, once with me and once with his father or that he has told me about. I cook his baby food myself. I've been making it chunkier and chunkier, trying to provide some texture. but it still scares me to give him food. I don't remember much about my son choking. he started coughing and he threw up and the next thing i remember is that i'm on the floor holding him and rocking him back and forth. Even though I know infant/adult/child cpr it still scares me to give him solid food. I don't give him much raw stuff. He really likes baked apples. I slice those quite thin and he will pick it up and shove the whole thing in his mouth. He ate whole green beans today (i usually mash them up into a paste type thing.) sliced into about 1/4 of an inch wedges and he enjoyed them. no choking but it still scared me every time he would pause. Just the memory of him coughing and crying just keeps replaying in my head. I hope to gradually give him more wedge foods, but i'm so scared.