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An update on my family..It's been awhile since Ive been very active, so I thought I'd post an update. As most of you know, I had my 3rd child 2 months early back in November after a very trying 2 monthhospital stay. He spent another 5 weeks in NICU before we could bring him home. Unfortunately that was just the start of our medical trials. N has had 2 hospitalizations since then, one 7 days and the other 8 days. He has surgery scheduled for May 20th to fix a hydrocele, and he has other health problems as well. He sees several specialists down at Children's hospital, and receives weekly speech, occupational, and physical therapies. He's developmentally behind and still coming in at about a 1-2 month level despite being 6 months (4 months corrected). We have been living with my parents for the past couple of weeks because we discovered a mold problem in our old apartment. So, we're paying rent on a place we cant even live in while our landlord takes the dear sweet friggin time trying to relocate us. I'm losing it living with my parents and just need to get out of here, but where else am I suppose to go? We dont have the money to find a new place becasue we're still paying on the old one. I developed PPD this time around and have been struggling with a black cloud over my head for the past several months. Its incredibly difficult even enjoying my children and especially the baby while dealing with this. Ive also had severe anxiety and panic attacks again and pretty much feel like a captive becasue Im afraid to drive or go out.. its awful! I had an AWFUL experience with my psychiatrist and pretty much he wont help me. I'm stuck because with MA Im restricted to the county mental health center and they have me pegged as a 'drug seeker' which is totally untrue.. I just want to feel normal again. On a better note, T and A are 3 and 2 and thriving. They're both talking up a storm and getting so big! T is still in speech therapy through the school district now, but he's making great strides. Its really cute the way they play and converse with each other. They're super close and share an amazing bond.
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Wow, I had no idea you were
Wow, I had no idea you were going through all that. I've been wondering how you've been. Good job hanging in there and I hope things get better for you.
I'm so sorry that you are
I'm so sorry that you are going through so much. I hope that thing get easier for you quickly.
Is it even legal for your landlord to collect rent money on a place that you can't occupy? What are the benefits to continuing to pay him rent rather than using that money to secure another apartment?
I am soo sorry to hear about
I am soo sorry to hear about all the trials that you are going through. I couldn't imagine going through all of that, with three kids, health issues, and PPD.
Some psychiatrists can be real duds. Are they getting you into any pyschotherapy? Generally with any type of Mood Disdorder it is not therputic to just medicate... therapy needs to be assigned as well (psychiatrists SUCK at admitting this/refering out for this). I don't know how psychiatrists work in the states, but I know that Canadian ones generally DONT want to get into "personal details", they just want to write the RX.
Im thinking its horribly illegal for you to be charged rent, on an unlivable place. I mean, you have grounds to terminate a lease under these conditions , I would think? Thats just awful! I don't know the laws where you live though....im probably wrong.
I do beleive that the laws
I do beleive that the laws state that you do not have to pay for an apartment that is unlivable. Please let your landlord know that you are not paying rent untill you are allowed back into your apartment.
I am very sorry about the doctors as they all seem to not want to help people lately. my psych did the same thing to me. I hope things get better and if you need to talk im here. I had ppd as well, and it was pretty bad.
I'm sorry that you're going
I'm sorry that you're going through a rough time. I'm glad T and A are doing well.
Thanks Mamas.. the reason I
Thanks Mamas.. the reason I continued to pay rent was becasue we arent being let out of our lease, rather the landlord is relocating us to another apartment in a building across the parking lot.. well I thought it was going to be a week or two before we could move.. not over a month. I need to gather up the strength to talk to him about some sort of rental credit or something, its just easier said than done with my anxiety issues.
And things are more trying than ever with Nova. We found out he has a congenital defect known as laryngotracheomalacia which means his windpipe and voicebox are floppy and collapse rather than being firm like they should be. This contributes to his respiratory issues and if he gets sick he can easily go into respiratory distress.
Nova was supposed to have surgery on Wednesday to correct a severely enlarged hydrocele (his boy parts) but it was cancelled by the anesthesiologist becasue of his lungs and his pediatrician and everyone else insists he's fine.. I'm SOOOOOOO frustrated. He cant be rescheduled until July 15th which means he needs to suffer in pain for 2 more months and they wont do anything for the pain becasue it's 'not supposed to hurt babies'.. Bullshit! If it hurts an adult why the hell cant it hurt a baby? And I can TELL my son is in pain.
Re: An update on my family..
I'm so sorry to hear you're having so many problems with your son. =( When my baby cousin was born 3 months premature he had all kinds of health problems and a hernia... He almost died a whole bunch of times, and then when he was 4 he started having even more problems, then not too long ago (He's 6 now) his appendix exploded and the doctors out here were so retarded, they kept on sending him home without any tests saying he was fine, he almost died again. My aunt was so scared, after everything they went through she didn't want to lose him just then. He's had breathing problems lately too, he has to sleep hooked up to an oxygen mask and has weight issues because of a thyroid problem. Sometimes doctors can be so stupid! It breaks my heart to hear about a suffering child. And your son should not have to go through that. Do your best to push with the doctors as much as possible, my aunt had to go through hell with Canadian doctors in the hospitals. They would rather send people home if they aren't pouring their intestines out of a torn open hole.
I really hope things get better for you <3