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My kid is labeled as " helpless"

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Jayden has been getting kicked out of preschools since I can remember. He has always been the " trouble maker" and has caused alot of the problems in alot of his classrooms. So I took him to the school board and got him an evaluation to determine needs for and iep program ( interventional education plan).Well I just got the finding of his evaluation today and something made me feel like the worst mother ever. The paper says that he only draws his people with no arms and legs and that could symbolize anxiety, hopelessness, and or guilt. It hurts me to think that the child I love so much might feel hopeless.

He also drew 2 people a " good boy" and a " cry baby" He told the lady that he is the cry baby person because he cries all day long. I hope to god I never told him that because I feel horrible. I just want him to be safe and healthy. I am afraid of his feelings and that he might be growing resentment for his father inside ( he saw his father for the first time this november but then he abandoned him again). I have a meeting to determine his iep plan on Monday. I hope it goes well.

It is good that you are

It is good that you are getting an iep, don't let mama guilt get to you. You are doing everything you need to to help him out.
  • By adcaela at 03/03/2009 - 6:32pm
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Sorry you are feeling that

Sorry you are feeling that way and dealing with a tough situation. It's not your fault.
  • By momnipotent at 03/03/2009 - 8:01pm
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YOu are doing the important

YOu are doing the important thing and thats getting him the help he needs. Ian drew people without arms for the longest time. I finally asked him about it, and he just said "oops" and then from then on started drawing them with them. I don't know if it always means that. I hope he gets the help he needs and like everyone else said don't let mama guilt get to you, you are trying!
  • By mamatessa at 03/04/2009 - 8:48am
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It's so great that you were

It's so great that you were able to have him evaluated. You are being proactive and trying to get him what he needs! Do you think he'd benefit from counseling? Meeting his dad may have brought up some feelings for him that he doesn't know how to deal with and talking to someone may help him figure out his feelings.
  • By rosie at 03/04/2009 - 9:45am
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J likes to tell stories so

J likes to tell stories so he makes me afraid to take him to counseling. I had to deal with cps once before and it was horrible. I would hate for him to say something harmless and then cps be at my front door again saying that I abuse him. I think alot of his problem is that people are always giving up on him. Thank god I have the best nanny in the world and despite his wild behavior she has worked with him always and he has gotten much better. I am just afraid of what he is going to do at school. He behaves well now at home does pretty much everything he is asked without a problem ( other than back talking). Once he hit his principal then advised him he was ready for me to come and get him. I am just so terrefied he will try to pull those stunts again. He knows when he behaves badly that he gets picked up. Im just hoping he doesn't get kicked out of this one 2.
  • By momtobe19 at 03/04/2009 - 5:50pm
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