My bf and I moved in together a little over a month ago, and for the most part it's been really awesome. But I'm really annoyed with him right now, and here's why:

He won't give me any attention. He asked me to cook dinner for him (food that I can't eat) and fell asleep and didn't even eat it. I tried to wake him up but he was grumpy, and I tried to talk to him because I was upset but he got mad.

He never helps with the dishes at all and I've had so many to do it's rediculous, and he doesn't conserve them at all. He makes me so fucking angry.

He eats more food than anyone else, and I buy it all, and when I mention how much it costs he gets all moody and says he'll stop eating. WTF. He makes money, but he acts like he's always broke. If I get a special treat, that would last me and the kids at least a week, he eats it all up.

Sometimes I feel like his servant.

Maybe all my annoyances are just building up and being triggered because I wanted to hang out with him today and he seemed to have no interest in me. We don't have a day off together very often, I wanted to spend time with him. He just wanted to play video games and sleep. That's always how it is when I want to spend time with him. He has no interest in just spending time with me. He has to be doing something. And he has the next two days off, which are workdays for me. I just wanted him to spend one day with me.

I don't like being the only one who does the dishes. I keep telling him this. He thinks it's okay because he does most of the laundry, and most of the laundry is generated by my kids. I do laundry too though, and I never ask him to. But I do ALL the dishes and I don't think it's fair. He just won't. He wants me to cook for him all the time too. He says he cooks and cleans all day at work, so I should do it at home. And he thinks my job isn't as hard of work as his job, so I should be able to do more around the house. Especially since the kids are mine. Yeah, maybe I would agree with him if he was financially supporting me at all, but he's not, so how does him cooking and cleaning at work all day benefit me? And why is it my job has no value to him, even though it's something he knows he couldn't do?

The last thing I want is an extra person to take care of. I thought he and I would take care of each other, but I am doing almost all of the giving.

I feel like I am always the one who does everything. It's not true, he does a lot too, but there is so much that he doesn't do. I feel really neglected emotionally a lot of the time. I knew he was this way, and I made the choice to be with him anyway. But it hurts. I love him, but my heart hurts somewhat frequently because he refuses to give me the attention I need.

Is this my problem or his? I don't know what to do, because he won't budge, and although I am happy most of the time, I don't like to feel this pain so often. Or at all.

I also pretty much financially support him, and though he does contribute a little, I supply him with most of his food and a really cheap place to live. And he still complains about the gas to and from work and how it would be cheaper to live in town. And when I explain to him why he's being a dick and how he's hurting my feelings, he just says "I'm a selfish asshole" or something like that, like it's something I have to just accept about him.

I would appreciate advice.