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He's going away for the summer.

Matt's going to be staying with my mom this summer. I just got a new job, this will save us money on daycare and I won't have to worry about him having outbursts and getting kicked out.

At the same time though, I don't know how to feel about it. I'm going to miss him so much, but I know I need the break. The idea that I need the break makes me feel...well, kind of like I'm passing my problems to someone else. Like I just can't hack being a mom, and I don't like feeling that way. I don't like feeling like I can't handle things and like I'm just not good enough and I need my mom to rescue me from my child.

I'm also concerned that it won't be good for him. That he'll come back and hate Philadelphia even more. Be even worse at school because he somehow thinks that means he'll go back to my mom. That WE will go back to my mom. He had that idea at the beginning of this past year. I just don't know how to feel, and I feel like I'm not good enough.

I can sympathize with your

I can sympathize with your feelings J is now on his 3rd preschool and about to get kicked out too. I have an appt with a child psych because I think he may have a mental condition. hang in there mama. just let your mom know the same rules apply there that apply at home.
  • By momtobe19 at 06/13/2008 - 2:03pm
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You're doing the right thing

You're doing the right thing mama, you need some time to yourself, and if you can get it take it! Just remind your mom of the routine you have and ask her to keep to it. Itll be good for you both I think!
  • By mamatessa at 06/13/2008 - 3:26pm
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Great idea!

I think the summer with grandma is the perfect solution. There'll be an adjustment period when he returns but that's the same as any time my son is away from me (whether it's 2 hours or 2 days.) Maybe he's overwhelmed in his environments and this will give him a chance to chill. I think it's awesome and kudos to you for allowing them this time together (even though it benefits you as well). Smile
  • By Delphiki at 07/07/2008 - 1:23pm
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how has this been going so

how has this been going so far? how long has he been there and how is everyone doing?
  • By Amy Rox at 07/09/2008 - 6:50am
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