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how do u ween?

I know I sould probally know how automaticly or something but I have no clue. I know I sould let her ween on her own but I am so done I want my body back for my own again. I just have no clue what to do, She is not the best eater she would rather have boob over anything. Should I not give her boob and try and get her to eat more food? I try and give her milk but she will only drink some and then she wants boobs. She will sometimes drink more from a bottle insted of her cup but everything I have read says you should give them cups. Any advice would be SOOOOOOOOOOO greatly appriciated.
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Oh gosh, you aren't just automatically supposed to know how to wean your kid. I had no idea. I had to wing it. You'll do fine mama. How old is your daughter? Does she eat regular food?

My daughter is going to be two in August and I JUST fully got her weaned off the boob.. I don't know if I did it the way I was supposed to, or if there really is even a certain way to do it, but what we did worked for us.

I started by just not giving it to her during the day and only feeding at night. She was thrown off for the first couple of days and she did get angry and pull at my shirt, but eventually she got the hang of it and stopped hassling me. She'd ask for it and I'd say no and that she'd have to wait until night night time and she did. Then eventually at night I started asking her if we could snuggle instead of boobie. She didn't get it at first but she got the hang of that too and now she's over it. I haven't breastfed in almost 2 weeks :?

I mean some people just go cold turkey and that works for them (my kid woulda freakin KILLED me), but doing it gradually like that worked for us.

I know this is rambly. It's late. I hope that helps. I know there are plenty of other breastfeeding mamas on here that have good advice too so you'll probably get that kid off your boob in no time. :wink:

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I went on a trip for four days and just didn't nurse when I got back. He didn't even try nursing when I got back so it seemed pretty easy. He was 16 months..

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i took away one of his bf at a time. it was slow but it worked!

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my kids were pretty easy,i just slowly let them have less and less bm. they eventually did not nurse at all.

I did not go strait to cups. my kids were about 13 1/2 months when i weaned.

in the beginning i was really frustrated because they wouldnt take bottles. it wasn't until i learned that would only drink warm milk that was close to body temperature, that they could wean. so i had to warm up all of their bottles and slowly make them colder and colder.

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I think it really depends on the age of your kiddo. Mine's 2 years old, and we're in the process of weaning right now. It's been SO hard, but I think we're doing it a really good way (very gradual.)

We started out by moving to a "don't offer, don't refuse" arrangement, so that we'd only nurse when he initiated it. I also tried to make sure he wasn't just nursing because he was hungry, so like, if he asked to nurse I'd offer him some food first and then nurse him if he still wanted it. Then, after a while of that, I started to set some boundaries with nursing - I'd say "no" sometimes, or I'd limit where we were allowed to nurse. I've been setting more and more boundaries (no nursing to sleep, no nursing in the night, whatever), and we've gotten to the point now where we probably won't nurse at all very soon. Tonight I'm actually having a mama-sleepover and so I'll be voluntarily away from him all night long for the first time (I was away from overnight before, but it's because I was hospitalized.)

On the other side of things, I'm making sure to spend a lot of quality time with him, tell him how much I love him and how proud I am of him, and give him lots of attention. We've also been talking about all the things "big boys" get to do (like ride bikes and eat fruit leather.) I really want to make sure he knows his mama still loves him, and that he doesn't feel like he's losing something (and certainly doesn't feel like he's losing part of our relationship) because he doesn't get to nurse anymore.

Different people do it different ways though, and I'm sure however you wean it will turn out fine.

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I really want to make sure he knows his mama still loves him, and that he doesn't feel like he's losing something (and certainly doesn't feel like he's losing part of our relationship) because he doesn't get to nurse anymore.

I think this is so important. For the first few days after I completely stopped nursing, I noticed Kennedy getting more clingy and asking me to hold her more. She's still in that stage and she still has to have me hold and snuggle her to get her to sleep. She also was really frustrated for a few days but I'm completely oblivious and it didn't even dawn on me that it was probably because she needed more snuggly bonding time.

So yeah, just be sure to give her extra love and be aware of her feelings.