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Community Advocacy and Support by and for Young Mothers

Give Me Just One Good Reason
By Mary DuChene

Many days I get home from work and class at 3 p.m. and realize I haven’t had a chance to eat or pee since 7:30 in the morning. I pick up the mail and sometimes, if I am lucky, there’s a child support check. The last one was for $184.63. The check stub helpfully informs me that the non-... Find Out More

At the Tivoli
by Lorrie Colin Spoering

Hordes of high school kids. They look so young.
Lanky, gawky high school boys. Smirking, laughing, gathered around a
table. Trying to look like you belong here. It is painfully obvious you
do not. You want to look older, like MEN, not the boys you are.
You are boys.... Find Out More

Girl-Mom publisher Bee Lavender talks about the experience of becoming a teen parent, and why she started this site: One cold, clear night in the spring of 1990 I let myself into my parents' home, quietly walked through the house without turning on the lights, and taped a note to the bathroom window. It read: "I'm pregnant. I'm sorry... Find Out More

I Am Not You - Yes I am
by Jessica Allan Lavarnway

Glancing around my obstetrician's clinic, I saw another young girl,
perhaps seventeen years old.  And my first thought was, "I am not
you."

I was not a teenaged mother.

Sure, I was nineteen.  Sure, this was my second child.

But damn it, I wasn't a... Find Out More

About Girl-Mom

Teenage pregnancy is not a "crisis" or "epidemic," like so many people would like us to believe. The only true epidemic associated with teen pregnancy is the overwhelming and universal lack of support available to young mothers. The only true crisis is the denial of the fact that teenage girls can be, are, and always have been, both sexual and maternal beings, with the capacity to love, procreate, and nurture.

We love our children fiercely. We protect and care for them like any mother, of any age, would. Through Girl-Mom, We hope to slowly show that to the world.

Girl-Mom in no way encourages teen pregnancy, as some critics have implied. Girl-Mom encourages mothers. We encourage all young women who have chosen to become mothers. We encourage all young mothers to stand up for themselves, to fight for their children, to empower themselves and to defy the notion that being young means that you are unworthy of parenthood.

We do not encourage childless teens to follow our path; face it, it's a tough path. But we encourage all teens that wake to the call of "mama!" before dawn breaks, to do all that they can to empower themselves and nurture their children. We encourage those who, through their own choices and freewill, have evolved from Girl to Girl-Mom. The girls who frequent this site are intelligent, strong, compassionate, socially aware, politically active, and eternally nurturing. Together, we will change the face of "teen parenthood."